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Tuesday, 10 January 2017


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I'm sure you know because I complain about it far too much.But my digestive system and I- call it tummy for short- don't really get on. We're like that couple that everyone hates, because they are on again, off again, on again, off again. But everyone knows that when they are sitting in the pub, doing very public PDA, and being very vocal about how much they love each other, really love each other now; you all sip on your vodka and lemonades, rolling your eyes, and breathing heavy sighs of fed up air, because you know they'll break up again.  And even the couple itself know this because it does. It always does.  The good times with this couple don't last forever, but that's okay.

This is me with my IBS. The good times don't last forever with irritable bowel syndrome, but that's okay. And yes, it's just as irritating and awkward as it sounds. I do think I am better at dealing with it now though, because now I know that if I have a bad day, it doesn't mean that it will stay like this forever.  It seemly means it's a flare up. That's what happens. And if I have a flare up, it's up to me if I want to let my IBS control me, or I want to control it.

Now I'm writing this post, not to make anyone feel sorry for me, because in the grand scheme of things IBS really is nothing compared to many other syndromes and illnesses in the world. So I should count myself lucky. If anything my Scoliosis might be deemed more serious because it could give me quite a few complications in life. But I want to speak out the people who also suffer with IBS, considering it's a very common thing. And I want to try help them not suffer with it. Which is so ironic and almost hypocritical for me to say, with the amount of times I have and still do get worked up offer my tummy. But my point being is, you should live with it, not suffer with it. Big difference.

What made me write this post was thinking about New years Eve. I was looking forward to New Year's Eve so much. I was going to a house party with one of my favourite people and then suddenly my IBS was like 'yo you sure you want to go out?' And so there I was crouched over, bloated, in cramping pain, and feeling sick. (I have a phobia or vomiting which makes this all the better). Anyway, I got asked if I didn't want to go out anymore, that there was no pressure and if I felt like staying in, we could of. And I was close to saying 'yes, let's stay in, my tummy is so bad I bascially  have no choice. Now that's what past Amelia would have done without a doubt, because past Amelia when she was dealing with IBS, let it control her. She didn't really go out, she would decline all invitations, she had no social life, she would cry nearly every day, she would constantly look at symptoms on google, she wouldn't drink, she wouldn't go to things just in case she felt ill there, she wouldn't stay over anywhere, she wouldn't eat certain foods, she even convinced herself she was dying at one point. Dramatic I know. But I was absorbed in this cycle. And it's very easy to let yourself get absorbed by it.

Now NYE I decided to go out, I was looking forward to this for far too long, I wasn't letting my tummy ruin my night, and eventually it didn't. I got myself ready, had a chamomile tea, made myself feel pretty, went out, had an amazing night, and even had a cheeky midnight kiss. Shhhh.....

See the thing is, funnily enough, most nights when I have somewhere to be my tummy gets pretty bad. And it's clearly subconsciously me making myself feel crap. See the thing is a lot of my IBS relates to stress, and one thing I'm not good at controlling is stress. I used to (and admittedly still do)  get stressed when my IBS symptoms are pretty bad, but my stress is making them worse, and I get even more stressed about them getting worse, so they get even worse, and then I get more stressed, so then get even worse...and so on. It's a vicious cycle. I like to think I am a lot better these days,  but even now and then I do struggle. So I decided I'm going to leave some tips for when I do struggle. These are the things that help me, and maybe will help you too? But you if you have any other tips that work for you, I would love to know. I'll be replying to comments so leave them down below.
  • Peppermint tea and chamomile tea- They are like my comfort. It feels safe to me. It might be a placebo effect but I instantly feel better after them
  • Going out- When I'm out sometimes I feel crap, sometimes I don't. But you know what's better? Being out, creating memories and feeling crap, then being home on your own focusing on the pain feeling crap. I kinda got forced into this by my friends. On numerous occasion I'd cancel on them or be like no I don't feel great tummy wise, I'm not going out; they would reply with, 'nope, getting outside will take your mind off it, we're on our way.' And they would come to my house and force me out. And you know what. They were very often right.
  • Calm yourself- Easier said than done, but I'm working on it. Yoga, stretching, have a bath, read a book. I'll let you know more when I get some more.
  • Distract yourself- watch a film, do work, make yourself feel productive.
  • Exercise- This is good for my back too. I hate doing it, but once you do it afterwards you'll love yourself.

Okay, guys. If you made it to the end well done, sadly I don't have a prize for you, but you did well. I might do a video on this too, let me know if you would like one? Otherwise, I shall see you all soon

-A,x

15 comments:

  1. Hey Amelia, such an inspiring story! I suffer from really bad anxiety and I very rarely go out to social events but knowimg that you have transformed from not going out and doing things to actually doing things has really inspired me to try and do things outside of my comfort zone. Thank you so much!
    - Jack

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    1. Ah no thank you <3 <3 That's really nice to hear Jack
      -A,x

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  2. Hi Amelia, like Jack I also have severe anxiety. I thought that your story was amazing! Ive recently got past a point of being to nervous to go out places but now I love it! Thanks for sharing your experience. I know it was a little different to mine, but it made me smile all the same- Lel

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    1. Ah thank you for sharing!! This comment has made me smile <3

      -A,x

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  3. Love those ways to deal with stress. I usually go out with friends if I feel stressful because I can tell what I have in mind to my friend! They usually give me a lot of useful advices and comfort me!! Anyway, followed you on instagram! Amanda! x

    www.thedanieloriginals.com | Instagram: danielpoonvignez

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    1. Friends are so great and so valuable! We gotta hold onto them <3

      -A,x

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  4. The post is so great! I really love your blog:)

    irinathayer.com

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  5. Thanks for sharing! Sounds uncomfortable but glad you have figured out how to manage it.

    Caitlin, Beauty & Colour

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  6. I suffer from the same And this post made me feel so better because I'm not alone! I'm kind shy to tell this to people soooo yeah...You reallyyyy should make a vídeo about this, please!!! Love you and keep making blog posts like this <3

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    1. Heyyy! Maybe I will! Especially if more people would want a video on this. So lovely to hear that this helped you <3 <3

      -A,x

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  7. I suffer from something similar and a flare up can be really really grim, I find a couple of days relaxing and looking after myself can really help at times. Great post, it's good to raise awareness :)

    Rosy | Sparkles of Light Blog
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    1. Yeah it's really not fun! Thanks so much for reading <3

      -A,x

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